The Goldilocks Paradox – An Introduction On How Our Need For Stability Blinds Us To Change


What are some of your favorite things in the whole world?

Have a few in mind?

Now, take a second, and think of one or two “loves” of today that may have started out as the complete opposite.

In one of my recent posts I spelled out that the ego is built for the sole purpose of classifying our world to ensure our survival.


Classification in order to assess reality, by itself, sounds like an oxymoron since whatever we classify in this moment,javier-allegue-barros-768453-unsplash is never identical when we observe it the next time we look at it.

We just assume we know it fully and don’t need to worry with assessing the reality it presents itself as, in the here and now.

This One’s Just Right… Or At Least It Was

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Why We’re All Here – If I’m Certain Of One Thing; It’s That Uncertainty Is The Point … Probably


How do you define success?

For years I loathed even the mention of the word.

I think it triggered a whisper in the back of my awareness to lay into me with “you’ll never be enough”

Success to me has in some way always sounded synonymous with “enough”.

So every time it was brought up in the past, it was like someone asking …

“When are you going to finally be enough, you think?”

Enough Is Never Enough

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Hidden Expectations – Don’t Give Up The Fight To Expose Them To Your Light

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This blog has been extremely eye opening for me in many ways.

Since having this awakening, or whatever you want to call it, I’ve realized just how much fear controlled my life previously and my lack of writing was a major one of those things.

I always knew my thoughts and ideas flowed with the ups and downs, but I’m kind of an assertive-type and an extreme extrovert (if you can’t tell), so I make a lot of “this is it!”, “I can’t believe I didn’t see it before!”, “how does everyone not know this?!” type of statements.

I now see them more clearly as an aspect of my ego’s childlike “know it all” side and it prevented me from writing because I secretly thought; if I write it down and my notions of “what is right” go changing again people will be able to “use it against me”.

Denial – Should I Make The Joke Or Is It Implied

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The Rise And (Eventual) Fall Of Ego Identification – A Foray Into The Psychological Landscape

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Whoa! That title, right?

Well, it’s not that serious.

Basically, I want to talk about how I fully believe we are beings that are two halves seen as a whole, much like a magnet has a north and a south pole, we’re comprised of a permanent and an impermanent “self”.

The former, or permanent, is what most refer to as the spirit, soul, chi, ki, and so on and so on.

The latter, the impermanent, is the essence which identifies with the body and everything else bound to the laws of time. This is what most refer to as the ego.

A Man Who Represents Himself Has A Fool For A Client

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The “Love Contract” – Spotting Fear’s Hidden Asterisk


Ever heard the phrase Quid pro quo?

The original Latin translation was “this instead of that” but today when we hear this it’s more like; “I’m only doing this for you since you’re promising me something in return”.

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Goldilocks in waiting…

I wanted to give a heads up to any that may have been waiting on the follow up to Tuesday’s post.

Unfortunately, my job search hasn’t been going as well as I would have hoped.

So, I’ve been tending more to matters surrounding “keeping the lights on” and a continued shelter from the storm (for this or any other “hurricane-like” conditions) in place over my head, rather than the daily decompression that this blog is for me.

I’ve been throwing a few “infographics” (or probably what most would call long winded memes) on instagram, Facebook, and Twitter.

They’re in no way a conclusion to the tale I began Tuesday, but it’s still “content” 😉

Hopefully, I don’t lose the few folks I’ve garnered thus far but I’ve definitely come to know, and fully trust, that no matter how the day shows up we’re always far more than just up to the task.

We’re all born knowing what the best course of action is to take in any situation.

I believe fully that growing to see this life as the only known approach for cultivating compassion, comprised of developing firsthand knowledge of fear which hopefully culminates into the understanding that we’re all essentially the incarnation of its opposite….is the real reason any of us are here in the first place.

To all those on the east coast with me, may you find safety, peace, and weather the storm well.


The Never Ending … Blog Post (but seriously longest one yet, whoops)

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When you see a hand drawn circle, that’s nearly perfect in precision in shape, do you find yourself asking things like;

  • “Where did the artist of this beautifully symmetrical concentric shape start from to make the first mark of it?”, or;
  • “When did they feel it was complete, did he or she stop the moment pen touched ink again or did they follow it back around a few rotations to marvel in its perfection?”

… perhaps some weirdos like me, or those who ate mom’s special brownies, find themselves pondering such nonsense, but most of us look at a hand drawn circle and go “hmm, sweet, nice one brah!” [I’m paraphrasing brownie you, of course].

That said, why do we look at all the circles of life, energy, and creation all around us and think; “Why/how did it all begin?” or more often we can’t stop wondering “how will it eventually end?”.

Perspective, It’s Not Just For Alice And/Or Looking Glasses

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Knowing Zen In Lieu Of Sin

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Do we really need our fears?

How about pain, do you think we could come to know life the way we do now, in a reality that didn’t experience pain?

Like many I lived my life thinking that these were aspects of existence that simply were a man-made manifestation.

I believed we knew of these aspects of ourselves based solely on some mistake we may have made a long time ago (🤔) …

….but even more recently, I saw it as something akin to a mental illness of perception that we were eventually going to be able to free ourselves from.

Now, the more I compare our lives, and our interconnected-symbiotic essence of creation (see all previous on God’s Breadcrumbs) to that of every other unbroken circular aspect in nature, I’m truly beginning to think the complete opposite.

Ah, Hells Bells, You’re Gonna Ride The Lightning Buddy

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